Saw my friend Sunday... it was very weird. She asked me to meet her on Saturday at 11:00, then pushed it back to Sunday at 11:00, then to Sunday at 18:00. She also canceled several times, but made it seem like something she was looking to nonetheless. When she showed up at 18:30 in a place we made arrangements for, her mother and younger sister were with her.
Mother and younger sister say hi to me and shake my hand, then the three talk among themselves. Backs turned to me. The girl's mom leaves for a bit, so my friend and her sister whisper between each other. Mom came back and we go out to eat. Same deal. Couldn't talk and wasn't asked anything. I felt very out of the loop, very isolated. It was odd because the first time I saw her (both of us alone), things went well enough between us. I figured that if we could ditch her family, we may be able to actually talk... I mean, she didn't come 3 hours to Portland to talk with her family and ignore me, did she?
I was wrong about that, because after we went to a cafe, she still ignored me, this time staring out at other people in the cafe and playing with her phone. Any time I'd ask her a question, she'd mumble out an short answer and look away. It was very painful because I was expecting her to be more social and more friendly... but it felt like we were in different worlds. She didn't want to connect on any level. While this is going on she makes some posts on a site we both visit about how Portland should be nuked and that it's full of idiots.
Before we made plans to meet, we talked about exchanging books, so I brought a bagful of my favorites. Maybe she was just out of the loop that time. In a few weeks I'll talk to her about getting them back. She can't hate me completely or else she wouldn't have planned for us to meet completely, but on the other hand, she posted that night after she got home that her mom said that she shouldn't see me anymore. That really shocked me because I didn't do anything "wrong." If the girl doesn't read any the books I loaned her or she's still rude in a few weeks, I'm going to stop talking with her. I hope next time will be better, but if it's not, no big loss.